So, states can be broken down into three components; one, how you move your body, your body posture, your facial expressions, your gestures; two, it’s also composed of what you think about, what you’re focusing on and three the actual words you use.
Here’s the point. When you’re bored or tired or fearful or full of anxiety, those behaviours have a state. They have a body posture, a gesture, a facial expression, a thought and language. For example someone experiencing pressure might think and say; “Oh my gosh, I’m dead. What am I going to do? How am I going to get through this? All right? Oh my God. Oh my God. Oh my God”. So, that’s a state. You can manage your state by shifting your body posture, your gestures, what you are thinking about and the language you use.
Based on what I mentioned earlier, it totally follows that confidence is also a state. Confidence has a body posture. Confidence has a gesture. Confidence has a thought; such as “I’ve got this. I’m going to crush this”. Also, confidence has a language like: “I’m ready. I can do it. Let’s go”. So confidence has a certain state pattern. So to be confident in any given moment, what is your confidence state? What does it look like for you? What’s yours?
When you’re absolutely confident, I want you to think about this right now. When you’re absolutely confident, how do you stand? How do you sit, if you’re sitting? How do you gesture? What are your thoughts when you’re totally confident? What are you saying to yourself?
I want you to make a note of these things and write them down in your phone, on a piece of paper and perhaps put them on a wall where you can see it everyday. Why am I saying this? Because repeatedly, several times in a day, I want you to go to this position. Don’t wait for the pressure to happen. Start practicing it before. So when the moment happens, you’re ready for it.
One more thing, once you have your confidence state, I want you to develop what’s called an anchor. We use this technique in acting quite a bit. In acting, what would happen is this. You could be on a set and all of a sudden you need to snap into love or snap into anger or snap into joy or happiness, and maybe you were having a sandwich just before they called you. I was trained to have an anchor that I could activate in order to immediately jump into whatever state I needed. In short, you create an anchor that’s tied to the desired state.
Maybe you clap your hands together. Maybe you snap. When I was an athlete, I used to always snap. It would put me back into a confident state. I would snap my fingers and I would start to feel the sensation of confidence. Some people laugh or smile you have something that puts you right back into that desired state. Also the more you do it, the faster and quicker it activates.
My one caveat to state and anchoring is this, if you only do it once in a while, it’s not going to work. To be confident in any moment you have to repeatedly do this. If you know who LeBron James is, and you watch him, you’ll see him trigger his anchors every game. There’s never a game where he doesn’t step into a confident state. Think about it. It’s not every other or every couple; it’s literally every game. The same is true for you, the more often you embrace it the better.
Quick recap, the first thing is you have to do to be confident in any situation is practice and over prepare. Then you have to get into that confident state. Remember to consider: How do you stand? How do you gesture? What are you thinking about and what are you saying to yourself? And then what’s your anchor when you are in that confident state?