The number one pet peeve I have when it comes to winning is, people who believe you can’t do it.

People who say to you: “Who do you think you are?”; “No you can’t.”; “You can’t do this.” and quite often it’s people who are in your close inner circle. Family, friends, colleagues, teammates, who look at you and say, “what…no way, not you.”

You’ve got this burning belief you can make it happen and they turn to you and they shit all over it. It’s unbelievable. Honestly, I can’t stand it. I can tell you in my own career, sports, acting, sales, managing, even coaching…everything I’ve done; when I’m around people who believe I can make it happen, and they have more belief than I have, amazing things happen.

You hear the phrase, “meteoric rise”. It’s not true for just for me, it’s true for anybody, who has had major successes. My favorite example is Tom Brady. Tom Brady was a write off, he was barely on the New England Patriots team but Bill Belichick believed in this kid and look what’s happened. He’s the best quarterback in the history of the game.

So, my point is this, if you’re around people who don’t believe in you whether it’s a manager, or a colleague, or a teammate, do your best to find a group, a reference, to help you come out of that situation. There’s nothing that cripples you more than being around people who are condescending, who don’t believe in you, and who are hard on your potential. Does that make sense?

To finish up, I want you to think of this analogy. If there was a roaring fire and I move a piece of coal from that fire five or six yards away. What happens to that piece of coal?

It totally loses intensity and completely burns out possibly, does that make sense?

The same is true for you. When you’re pulled away from the source, it’s really hard to keep burning when you’re not surrounded by those who believe in you.

So, you have me here on these blogs, maybe you have a book, or a CD, or a course, or a seminar you attend. The take home message, is do your best to get around people who believe anything is possible for you. I certainly do. If you can do that, you will absolutely find a way to win.